4 Common Problems with in-laws and How to Overcome It
A. They want to be your friend ... Your Best Friend
When the law was very fond of you are certainly better than they really hate you. This type usually in-law wanted to try to be your friend. Not just friends, but friends. When in-law always want to be with you, this course can make you uncomfortable. When else have time for yourself? To fix this:
- If the mother-in-law wants to meet for lunch and you do not have the desire or time, you still can not be ignored. But maybe you could put it off. Delay until you at least feel the mood and give an explanation that did not make it hurt.
- If a brother in law who wants to spend time with you, you might be able to resist it by saying, "Sounds like a good idea, but I only have 30 minutes. Is that okay?".
2. They hate you
Let's just say you hate each other condition each other. But if the couple would like you to try harder to make amends with his family, while one of you stay at each establishment, try to wait until the end 'defense' was collapsing. To do so, you can start with:
- Praise the law to raise a child.
- If the situation is just one of the in-laws who do not like you, then focus on the other. Try to make friends with their siblings or even om and aunt, who will show you actually are fun and have good intentions.
3. Spouse or other family-law is always asking for money
If a brother-in-law asks you to be the guarantor of the debt or the other brother-in-law, require large amounts of money for a car payment, it may not matter if only once. But what if the condition is instead turned into a natural thing to always ask any of you?
- Before you give it, or may even upset, consult with your spouse from all aspects. What is the right choice and whether just the two of you will make your monthly spending to swell? Or do you need money for your own household?
- If you agree to the debt, make a written agreement with the seal number and the amount of time to pay. Maybe you could also make a joke like "We use the stamp so that we do not want to end up in court is not it?"
4. Often interfere in the wrong time
If laws or other partner's family to call when you are having sex with a partner or suddenly appear while you are sleeping, they indirectly enter your personal life without being invited. The fix:
- Make clear boundaries about when they can come, of course, with an explanation. For example, when they often come in the evening, saying that time is the time to rest. They too needed a break and why not come tomorrow morning.
- Ask your partner to contribute when given the above explanation.
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4 Common Problems with in-laws and How to Overcome It
