7 Ways Being Post-cheated
But when emotions are heightened, do not rush to take a stand. Think carefully first. If you consider the togetherness that has long been intertwined with a partner too important to be tampered with a third person, then maybe you can consider to maintain the relationship. But of course it is not easy and crossed your mind to end the relationship.
If you are still confused about how to behave, here are some tips that are summarized from Go Get Guys before taking serious steps.
1. Take Time for Yourself
At least stay away from him for two days after discovering the affair. If the direct address, maybe you will loose control and react spontaneously. It could be you will not regret the decision has been made. For that, do not act hastily. Should calm your mind and think back, if you can live with people who can not be trusted?
2. Do not Blame Yourself
In troubled times, not infrequently a woman become inferior and blames herself for her lover's infidelity. You should know, people who have cheated on a shallow mind. He was not man enough to speak if it is not happy in the relationship and choose the path of 'coward'. For that, talk to him when you are ready and do not feel guilty at all. He makes the mistake, not you.
3. Think Fine
Understand the risks that will occur if you choose to forgive and stay together. Confidence after cheated certainly not be the same again. Though he has proven its relationship with other women has ended and shows good change of attitude, not necessarily a good relationship could return. You may continue to be paranoid if there is any call on his cell phone.
Restoring trust takes a long time. Are you ready to fight for it? And if the lover is ready if you always suspected? Therefore think very carefully and tell him if it would re-establish the risk relationships.
4. Do not Revenge
Resentment and anger makes you want to reply actions by adultery also. This retaliation will not solve the problem, only made things worse and complicated.
5. Do not mention it Continues
If you have decided to have a relationship again, you should try to forget the affair. Avoid mistakes continue to leverage on each argument.
6. Communication
Of the trust can not come back whole again after cheated. The relationship is also to be different. It will take a long time and need a lot of communication from both of you to 'healthy' again love affair.
7. Becoming More Faithful or Not Faithful
The good news is, when men get caught cheating the first time, chances are he will not repeat it again and really regretted it. But if the spouse caught cheating a second time, then there will be infidelity third, fourth and fifth. Believe! (TR/WLP)